I was just terminated from the deals group. I’ve let myself go in terms of my health and weight. I figured I’d use a good chunk of the severance time to get in shape over the summer and focus on my health but my friends and family are pushing me to find a way to juggle both and call me crazy for taking my time. My plan is to build a morning routine of fitness and work that into my new schedule when I’m rehired. Any thoughts ?
My patience for this job is waning… I’m 35, single, no debt - Made some decent investments last year in some AI chip stocks and now they’re coming to roost.. my brokerage account is now more than my 401k. I feel like my life is 90% work and 10% everything else. I wonder if I should take some extended time off (6mo-1yr) as I would love to actually have space for things during the week again and explore / grow in other areas of my life. Is it time?
Honestly your friends and family don’t sound very supportive (mine aren’t particularly either). You should 100% take the time for you. It’s amazing that you have realized you need to do this, and your health should always be your top priority. You have great experience, you’ll find another job. What you probably won’t find much more of (if you don’t prioritize it) is time.
I’d focus on health but apply to at least 1 role a day, potentially more. You don’t know how long it will take to get hired, plus you’ll be exercising for a few hours maximum per day. Not the entire 16 waking hours.
good luck in your health journey. some people I know wake up extra early to work out in the morning. others exercise in the evenings before or after dinner. regardless of what you choose, I hope youre able to stick with the new routine after youre rehired. Ive also let myself go over the years and am now struggling to lose weight. I now take a walk in the afternoon between meetings and lift some free weights at home in the evening after work
Yes definitely a morning routine would be best I think, hoping that it will help energize me from the start of my day.
the trick is to get into a routine and stick with it. if you intend to do morning workouts after you’re hired, I’d recommend starting those early workouts now. otherwise it’s going to be an adjustment to wake up earlier when you start a job and it will be more difficult to stick with it.
That’s an absurd take by your friends and family. As others have said, focus on your health and continue to look for jobs that support your target lifestyle. It doesn’t have to be one or the other.
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The health part of that was me around this time last year. I've been a lifelong athlete, but I had two years straight of injuries + life getting in the way and had let myself go. At my annual checkup last spring, my doc recommended a GLP-1, blood pressure meds, and cholesterol meds. I watched my dad be on the latter two for decades, and I never want to be perpetually on meds, so that was the kick in the pants I needed. I did start the GLP-1, but also worked on my diet and got my routine down again. Fast forward to today, I'm down ~60lbs with another 5 to go, am fully back in my sport, have dialed in my diet, and am weaning off the GLP with no adverse effects. Even better, my doc no longer thinks I need either the blood pressure or cholesterol meds. I've also locked in what is a reasonable, feasible workout regimen that fits in my family and work life.
Totally. I have been trying to juggle personal interests in public equity analysis and current events, along with M&A work and family, there’s not much room for health after that. The big 4 accounting and consulting firms used to have a way better work life balance and were highly resilient to lay offs. Although, I was surprised about the decision, I was not upset for even a second when they called me to tell me the news. I can’t name one happy person across the whole firm, a bit sad.
I took was laid off from KPMG back in 2023. If you can afford it, take some time to focus on yourself during your severance time. Your family only wants the best for you, but in the end, it is up to you, only you know what is truly best for you. Best of luck in your fitness journey...!!
I agree with your family. The longer that you go without a job the harder it is to find one. If you don't learn to both work and stay healthy at the same time then you will end up sacrificing your health as soon as you get a new job. Start your health routine now but do it in conjunction with a full-time effort to find a new role. That way you will be able to maintain the health routine when you start working again.
Love thyself and care for you. Life is short. Take care of your health.
It takes at least 30 days to fix a habit. At a minimum give yourself that. Not sure why your friends and family are against it, unless they don't have the self discipline and your actions tweek their guilt a bit. If you are a morning person, go for a morning routine. It's a great jumpstart for your day and it help keeps insure you make it happen everyday. I've never mastered the AM go to the gym, but faithfully do my evening workouts and view them as non-negotiable decompress time. The key is getting a habit that will be workable for you. You and your family deserve a healthy you. It helps if you make your mind set that you deserve a healthy diet and fit body rather than you ought to do it. Things we "get" to do because we like them or they make us feel good we make time to do. Things we "should" do, but don't "have" to do, get put off. This mind shift will greatly increase your likelihood of success.
Ignore your "friends and family" and get a handle on your health, or nothing else is going to matter. They should not have a say in the matter. And I'm being polite...
Okay, I'll hit it another direction. Are you going to do the same thing when you find another job? Are you going to throw yourself into it and sacrifice your health again? If you're honest with yourself and say "yeah, probably", then wouldn't bother getting 'in shape'. Eat whatever and find another job as fast as possible. There's no point in spending 2 or 3 weeks "doing great" and then falling back into another 2 or 3 years of 60-80 hour weeks living on Doritos and Mountain Dew. On the other hand, if you're REALLY serious about staying in shape, it's worth it more than likely. But be honest with yourself. I have a friend I really respect for his honesty. He's overweight, eats terrible, and works crazy hours. His philosophy is "I want to make as much money as I can, and if I survive the first heart attack or whatever, I'll cut back. If not, who cares?" Hate that for him, BUT he's honest with himself enough to know he won't really stay in shape.
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